A Haunting and Menace

tales of a grim creeper

This is easily my favorite time of year - spooky szn! And what better time for a real life scary story? This one is a tale as old as time.

Picture it… we’re peacefully enjoying our lives when, out of nowhere, our phone screen lights up and there it is - a text from an ex!

I had that haunting experience last night. I was relaxing on my couch to an episode of Snapped when I look down and on the screen was a bone chilling “How are you doing?”

For some background, this is an ex I’ve written about before. He rode off into the dead of night with the woman he was cheating on me with. And now they’re engaged! Lucky lady. And even though we broke up in early 2021, he has been peppering me with check in messages since last November. A hi here, a how are you there there, an “Oh, I was just watching Golden Girls and thought of you.” DON’T YOU BRING MY GOLDEN GIRLS INTO THIS!

But last night was different. Last night, after he waited for his fiancée to go to bed and then reached for his phone with his crusty, ghoulish hands, he wanted 3 things:

1. To know I was okay (because I guess he thought he permanently ruined my life?)

2. To know that I don’t think he’s a cheater (even though he is)

3. To know that I forgive him (not happening on my watch)

Oh, and a bonus 4. to know this conversation is “just between us”. #SHADY

He evidently didn’t like any of my responses last night so, on his way to work this morning, he had to call me. We haven’t spoken in three years but he needed to hear from my mouth that I won’t remember him as anything other than a bad person. After we got off the phone, I thought “Shit. This goblin energy can really stick to us like a spider web if we don’t protect ourselves.”

So after the call and as I was stringing together cloves of garlic to wear around my neck for the rest of the day/month/year, I reminded myself of some of the things I’ve had to learn in the past to protect myself from good vibe vampires.

A few of my favorite go-tos when it comes to healing and protecting my peace are:

Meditation: Meditation is such a powerful practice that has helped me tremendously throughout my healing junket. Even a few minutes a day can be a game changer. I've had some really peaceful and insightful sessions where messages felt divinely downloaded to me that I would have never been able to tap into otherwise. And, of course, I’ve had some really distracted sessions but I’m focusing on the positive now. Just a few minutes a day of intentionally sitting, without distraction, and focusing on your breath can completely turn things around.

Journaling: Yes, journaling is about getting all the feelings out, the pain, the anger, the rage, hurt, sadness and even the happy wins. But it’s so much more powerful than that. As you write about your feelings and pour thoughts onto paper, incredible solutions, insights and little bits and baubles from our inner knowing are revealed. It’s like someone – or something - else is writing. I had no idea how powerful journaling would be for me and just how transformative it would become for my life. Journaling is my go-to when I need clarity. It also pairs nicely with meditation!

Be Grateful for The Lessons I’ve Learned & How Far I’ve Come: There was a time where I would have been a puddle hearing from this ex. But I’ve come a long way, baby! And it’s important for me to remember that I am not the same person who fell for the lies and foolishness of a low vibe creature from the Black Lagoon. Remembering where we once were and who we are now is a great way to remind us how strong we are and to keep going!

Block: I think this one is self-explanatory so I’ll keep it brief. Block anything out that interferes with your peace. There’s nothing wrong with setting boundaries and, if we’re dealing with headgame horsemen who repeatedly trample over our boundaries, then a good ‘ol phone and social media block will do the trick. What a treat for our peace.

There is nothing more sacred than our emotional well being and we need to protect it at all costs. So when the goblins, trolls, banshees, Dr. Jekylls, Mr. Hydes and emotional zombies from our past come back to haunt us, do whatever you need to do (legally, of course) to ward them off.

And just put them back riiiiight where they belong. boop! bye! xo